If you look at my Instagram page you're likely to see posts of both these varieties. A contradiction? (And shouldn't a nutrition coach be advocating against copious cupcake consumption?) I don't think so and here's why.
Self-care can take many forms. Yes, it's important to eat a nutrient-dense diet full of vegetables and fruits of a variety of colors, as well as healthy fats and protein. Some other ways to take care of yourself include: drinking enough water, exercising or engaging in a sport you enjoy, meditating, getting enough sleep, taking stretch breaks when you've been sitting at the computer for a long time, and eating some comforting food, if you want. What's more, you don't have to do any of the above to "earn" a treat.
Our bodies tell us what they need. The more we listen to them, without fear (of gaining weight or "being bad") the happier and healthier we'll be.
If you want to read some very compelling work on emotional eating and understand why it's the diet mentality that's harmful (not emotional eating), I highly, highly recommend you check out Isabel Foxen Duke. Game-changing stuff!